Young and Dumb

A little preface here. I know I said I was going to do a post to kind of piggyback off of my last post but this topic just popped into my head and I felt that I needed to get it out. Hopefully next post will go with the first one! 🙂

The other day I was getting something at some store like dollar general or something. I was waiting in line and this older (probably in his 50’s) was in front of me and them there was another woman who was a little bit younger than him in front of him. I heard them just having a little conversation about politics and the upcoming election. I just thought to myself that I should stand in line and not say anything because with this election some people can get fired up! I was minding my own business when the man in front of me turned around and said, “Well I bet she’s voting for Hillary because you know she’s a girl and she is young and dumb.” There it is. That phrase. “Young and Dumb” Now whether or not I am voting for Hillary or Trump or whoever, that doesn’t matter. What matters is that just because I was standing there in line and that gentleman turned around and saw that I was young he automatically assumed I was dumb; or Ignorant; or immature. Wow. When I heard that I almost dropped my basket right there and wanted to yell at him. But right there, if I would have done that I would have proved his argument right there without him having to say another word. That is why I did not do that. I calmly responded and kind of joked around with him and explained some of my political views (briefly) with him and told him why I felt that way. Now the real issue here is that yes I totally agree, some young people make very poor choices. That is why there is an age requirement to drive, drink, vote, etc. Now with that said, my opinion is that anyone of any age can make very poor decisions. Now you may at this point totally agree with me and say, “Ok that’s great but so what?” Well there is another part to this. There is a quote from Gandhi that I have heard and I never really thought anything of it because I never really thought I could make a change in the world. Until now. The quote says, “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” Changing the world seems like something impossibly hard to do. I, with my new found ‘confidence’ beg to differ. I believe whole heartedly that old people can be just as dumb as young people. Now that being said not everyone believes that. I believe that if you want something in life you have to go get it yourself. It’s not going to come or change on its own. That is where the Gandhi quote comes in. If we want people to stop viewing young people as ignorant, dumb, poor decision makers, or whatever, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! Hold doors for other people, say yes ma’am and no ma’am, say please and thank you! Make the other people that do not believe that we are capable of being more than just money suckers until we are 25 question what they believe. Make someone go “wow I’m impressed, chivalry isn’t dead.” Consciously make decisions that put you at the same maturity level as your boss at work, your mentor, your dad even. Everyday strive to be a better person. That is the only way that we can change people ideas and views of us. Prove them wrong. Be the change.

Yours truly,
-K

What is love?

Ok, let me just preface this. This is my first ever blog post. I started off with a somewhat controversial topic. The reason I did that is because this topic intrigues me. Who knows though, this may blow up in my face and be the worst blog post ever? If so, which I really really hope that doesn’t happen, oh well. You have to start somewhere and I would rather just jump right in instead of easily take a step at a time.

So since again this is my first post ever let us start out with something easy. Here is my rawest definition of love. Without all the gender, religion, etc stuff. Love is an emotion. Simple as that. Wikipedia defines it as “a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that range from interpersonal affection to pleasure. It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment.

Now with saying all of that I do believe there is much more depth to love than just what “Wikipedia” defines it as. Or even what I defined it as. I would also like to say, and I’m being vulnerable here which is not a super comfortable thing for me, I am writing this from a perspective of someone who has never been in love. I have never had a relationship with another non family member where I felt as though I loved them in a non-brotherly or friendly way. I am just a senior in high school though so that’s normal right? Anyways, love is a whole lot of different things. This is why I absolutely love the way the Greek translate the word love. They actually have six different words and definitions for it. The first one is Eros. This word for love means the kind of love that is sexual passion. Fun fact: this word was actually named after the Greek god of fertility. I find that kind of funny. It represents sexual passion or desire. The next word for love is Philia. This is the love that you have for an amazing friend. This is what you would say when you are telling your best friend goodbye and you say, “Bye, I love you!”. Also fun fact: the Greek valued this love far more than they did Eros. The next word for love is Ludus. This is the one that the Greeks would use for playful type situations. Like flirting, teasing, or whatever. My personal opinion is that if the Greeks when they made these words they lived in Texas in modern times, they would use this word like we use love when we say, “I LOVE THE COWBOYS!!!!” which I happen to say a lot by the way. Anyways that’s just my opinion. The next word is Agape. Now if you go to church at all you may have actually heard of this one. I know I have. But anyways, Agape love is defined as love for everyone. It is also called selfless love. I think this is why I have heard it in church a lot because this is exactly how our God loves. He literally loves every single person on this earth. This is also how God calls us to love. The fifth word for love is Pragma. This is longstanding love. Basically this is the kind of love that you see between that super cute old couple that you see at a coffee shop together or eating at a cute diner or something. I really love cute old couples by the way! Now the final word for love that the Greek have is Philautia. This is said to be the love of self. I know that for me personally I probably struggle with that kind of love the most. I need to love more like Agape love and not be selfish.

Ok so that was a lot of reading definitions. I know. I’m sorry. I had to put those in there because I feel my blog would lack what I was trying to get across without them. Defining love is hard and easy at the same time. With all of that said (and with me reading all of those definitions and researching love things) I feel like love now has a new definition for me. Where, yes, you could argue that love has a lot of different meaning, I believe love can be summed up into one definition for the purpose of nothing more than to make it simple and complex and break-apartable (if that’s a word) as possible. Love for me is a true, genuine enjoyment of something (or someone). That is pretty simple for all those words and definitions in the paragraph above. I know that. This is just my opinion and my own definition of what love is. Some people will probably disagree with me and that is totally ok! This topic is not very black and white and I get that.

As an end note I just want to point out something. Notice I did not mention love was just pertaining to a specific gender, race, religion or anything. I didn’t really set perimeters on it.
That is just a final thought and I will go into more detail and explain why I pointed this out in my next post. See there, I might have gotten your attention and read for my next post!
Hope this wasn’t too bad!

Yours truly,
-K